Miscellaneous

1. She asked me to buy her a drink, should I?
2. She started sex talk, that means I’m in, right?
3. She said she has to go to the bathroom, how long do I wait for her?
4. She just got a call on her cell phone and is gabbing like I’m not there, what do I do?
5. She/they were rude when I approached, how do I set them straight?
6. I’m talking to this girl and this friend of hers keeps trying to drag her away from me!
7. How do I deal with guys cockblocking me?

1. She asked me to buy her a drink, should I?

Your criteria for buying a girl a drink should be the same criteria for buying a guy a drink in a bar you just met. If you’re in a good mood, getting along well, and feel like being a nice guy, go for it. It’s natural to get your new friend a drink in a bar, and be open to that person carrying the next round. Now as for impressing her, or getting her to like you, forget it. You should not be buying a girl a drink within the first 5 minutes of talking to her, and under no circumstances are you to buy her friends drinks. Often the drink you buy for her friends are given to other guys anyway.

Now if she ASKS you to buy her a drink, you are absolutely forbidden to. That is rude, unacceptable behavior, and sets the frame that she's the prize that you are trying to win. However, don’t get offended when that happens. If you realized you could get free drinks from people you just met, I think you’d do the very same thing. I know I would.

How do you answer that request? You can bust on her about it playfully, or just ignore it and keep talking. If it’s a ridiculous request, such as a woman in a 5-set asking you to buy them all drinks, you can just laugh at her, and say something like “How do you roll with this girl?” If the girl who asks is not your target though, make sure in a couple minutes you put your hand on her shoulder or around her and revalidate her, saying something of how you really do think she’s cool. It’s a much finer line to bust on your target’s friends than busting on your target.

Also, when in doubt, quote Ali G:

Her: “How about buying me a drink?”

You: “No, but if you come to my country Kazakhstan, I will by you television with remote control. But if you cheat on me, I will crush you ” (make crushing motion with hand)


2. She started sex talk, that means I’m in, right?

Probably not.

Sex talk really early in the meeting usually means she’s trying to get you exited, usually to either test you or just get a free drink out of you. Be very non-reactive when she brings up sex, and don’t give any indication that she’s turning you on or you think you have a chance with her.

Oh, and of course, quote Ali G.

Her: “I give great blowjobs.”

You: “Respect.” (optional putting your fist out to connect with hers, street style.)

3. She said she has to go to the bathroom, how long do I wait for her?

As soon as she starts walking away you need to be heading towards your next set of girls. Her going to the bathroom, and possibly even asking you to stay is a direct test of your frame. If she comes back from the bathroom and you’re still standing in the same place, talking to no one, then you’ve lost a ton of value and any chances you've had with her are gone. She may give you something to hold. If that happens, use it to your advantage. She’s now given you a “lock-in” prop, that will force her to find you again. Then when she comes back, she can see you talking to other girls and will be jealous.

4. She just got a call on her cell phone and is gabbing like I’m not there, what do I do?

You have maybe thirty seconds to kill looking at your own phone and texting someone before you have to turn your back and talk to someone else. Ideally, you don’t walk away, but just engage either another girl in the set, or someone (girl or guy) standing next to you and chat a bit. If it’s just you and her in a corner and she’s gabbing on the phone and ignoring you, you have to say “I’ll be back” and go talk to another set. You can come back to her later. Yes, she might not be there later on, but if you stand there and wait patiently for her to stop gabbing in front of you, all the attraction you’ve built up from her will plummet and she’s as good as gone anyway. The rule is you can’t make it seem like the chance to talk to her ASAP is worth you being bored and unoccupied.

5. She/they were rude when I approached, how do I set them straight?

It really depends on how rude they are and how soon into the approach they were rude.

If the first thing they do is turn their backs when you say hi, or say “Go away, don’t talk to me!” Then there’s really nothing to further the sarge. And for that matter, why would you want to? Just walk away. If a girl blew off Brad Pitt, he wouldn’t care. Why should you? There are plenty other ones out there.

Now if they say something rude after the first minute, you can say, “You guys are like the mean girls that picked on me in high school!” Then you can point at your target and say “Yeah, you’re Molly Ringwald from Sixteen Candles!” They will bust up and laugh, often defend themselves, and you’ve built up a lot of value from that. From then on start talking about how they’re making a sequel to Sixteen Candles set 20 years later and still starring Molly Ringwald.

6. I’m talking to this girl and this friend of hers keeps trying to drag her away from me!

Dealing with the Drag-Away Girl is easier than you think.

The technique is actually just standard AMOG-fare. When the girl comes to drag her away, pat her on the shoulder and say “You’re cool, you’re cool.” Then turn away from her and keep engaging your target. The drag-away girl will try again, then pat her on the shoulder and say “You’re cool, you’re cool,” and turn back to your target. Do this cycle over and over until the drag-away girl leaves. It works, and your value will be raised in the eyes of your target for dealing with the situation quickly and effectively.

7. How do I deal with guys cockblocking me?

Welcome to the world of AMOGing. I can’t do the subject justice in a little blurb so I’ve written an article on it. See here.

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